When we run society events, we can often predict the sort of topic that can attract a strong audience - but then sometimes we can be surprised. In 2023, the society’s special event,  Let’s Talk About…Secret and Lies in Family History webinar attracted 178 attendees, and a call to participate in focus groups for the Intimate Lives: The Ethics of Uncovering Family Secrets project resulted in around 200 emails. We had obviously hit on topics of interest! At the heart of both activities are the consequences of new family members disclosed from DNA testing and results analysis. This can be the result of following specific searches for parents or family members by adoptees, or finding out that grandfathers did not match the one on paper or had strayed from the marital bed to father another child.

As much as test results can confirm a pedigree line when the paper trail can be inconclusive (too many John Smiths as potential fathers and similar), these new family members can be the result of forced adoptions and illegitimacy. Historically, illegitimacy is defined as the state of being born to parents who are not married  and is a concept deeply rooted in patriarchal structures that have long perpetuated gender inequalities. From a feminist perspective, illegitimacy is not just a social stigma but a manifestation of the broader issues surrounding women's autonomy, reproductive rights, and the societal expectations placed upon them.

This ties in with the social research that we undertake for the countries of origins of our families. Opportunities for education, professional careers, contraception, abortion, and indigenous rights have varied considerably for women and in the twenty-first  century are still contentious issues in places from Afghanistan to Indiana, attracting modern legislative instruments to either right historical wrongs or return us to practices of the past.

Historically, the term "illegitimate" has reinforced the societal norms that dictate that a woman's value is tied to her marital status. In traditional patriarchal societies, women who bore children outside of wedlock often faced severe social ostracisation and discrimination. This stigma served to control women's sexuality and reinforced the notion that a woman's primary role was within the confines of marriage. For example, those with Scottish heritage such as myself might have seen evidence from their own families from the kirk session records (available via the ScotlandsPeople website) that both seek to force marriages or at least mandate financial support for an unmarried mother-to-be.

Mother and child

One of the key issues is the impact of legal and institutional frameworks on the experiences of unmarried mothers and their children. Historically, laws and social policies have discriminated against individuals born out of wedlock, further entrenching the stigma associated with illegitimacy. Advocates for legal reforms ensure equal rights and protections for all individuals, regardless of their family background. This includes challenging patrilineal inheritance laws, custody battles and discriminatory practices that have disproportionately affected unmarried mothers.

The family history community Project Infant is a recent undertaking to provide databases of individuals caught up in the challenges associated with mother-and-baby homes in Ireland.  In 2013, the then Australian Prime Minister, Julia Gilliard, provided a formal apology for those who had been affected by forced adoptions from the 1950s to the 1970s – which in some cases has led to compensation being made available. It is those babies, now adults, whom we see are buying DNA kits and looking for their genetic pedigrees, their birth parents and some answers.

The Intimate Lives project led by Dr Ashley Barnwell from the University of Melbourne and Dr Alexandra Mountain from SAG, is one that seeks to provide a framework for family historians or anyone uncovering past family secrets about intimate lives. The concerns surrounding family secrets are complex - the psychological impact and legal implications alongside a disruption to the previously known family structure and dynamic come to mind. I look forward to the outcomes of this project as well as further discussions regarding respectful handling of the choices the women in our past were forced to make.

Further reading

Barnwell, Ashley. “Family Secrets and the Slow Violence of Social Stigma.” Sociology (Oxford) 53, no. 6 (2019): 1111–26. https://doi.org/10.1177/0038038519846443.

Moore, Susan M. “Family History Research and Distressing Emotions.” Genealogy (Basel) 7, no. 2 (2023): 26-. https://doi.org/10.3390/genealogy7020026.

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This article was contributed by Ruth Graham from Society of Australian Genealogists.
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